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A common accusation launched at the myriad of polyamorous people is that they essentially are sexual deviants incapable of loving and being satiated by one monogamous lover. Polyamorous men simply can’t ‘keep it in their pants’. Poly women must have daddy issues. The absurdly uninformed opinions of people opposed to any polyamorous lifestyle can become very cruel very fast. How could you possibly love someone you’re not solely committed to sexually? 

It’s human nature to oversimplify ideas in order to reach some understanding even when the understanding reached is completely inaccurate. Love is a broad term that comes in many forms and ‘true love’ is not limited to family connections or monogamous commitments. Love between two people in a polyamorous relationship may or may not involve sexuality at all! The relationships we build with people we love have limitless and deeply personal possibilities. 

A woman thats wants to be a sister wife may have very little interest in a sexual relationship with the male core of a polygamist family. She may be relieved that another sister wife satisfies that need. She may also be a lesbian that desires a non-sexual relationship with a male while enjoying a sexual connection to her sister wives. There is simply no box the ideal relationship can be neatly packed into then delivered to every doorstep.

Imagine a woman that enjoys sex immensely but has no interest in a romantic relationship. She can meet one or more partners that share her sex drive as well as her disdain for romance. To the outside world it’s easy to call these sexual partners only ‘friends with benefits’ but that assertion completely disregards the amount of love the partners may have between them. Not everyone is interested in being woo’d into a socially approved romantic situation. This does not equate to a lack of ability to love. 

Learning to express and live by your true desires in healthy and honest ways will lead you to true love the way it’s meant to be for you. Respecting the choices and boundaries of everyone around you helps ensure we live in a world where true passion can be followed. Some level of love is present in all personal relationships. Sex is a factor that may not even play a role in our CORE relationships. Sex could also be an exhaustive factor among many polyamorous lovers, which is a beautiful thing. Moral judgments of relationship’s based on sexual inclinations only works to damage the connection between two or more people. Don’t tarnish another’s love with your words.

If a woman wants to be a sister wife, respect her. If a man wants to find sister wives, respect him. If a person wishes to maintain a sexual relationship with 20 partners, respect them. Nobody owes anyone their happiness to ensure we’re conforming to narrow arbitrary standards. What’s love got to do with polyamory? Damn near everything. Sex is just an optional cherry on top.

Published By: Christopher Alesich

Matchmakers, Inc - Sisterwives.com

Money can make or break a person. Too little, or too much, money is one of the largest factors determining a  life’s outcome and often there is little an individual can do about their financial standing. In monogamous relationships money is among the top causes of a breakup. There are few statistics available that give a clear picture of money’s influence in polyamorous relationships. Poly people tend to be well educated and more open minded leading one to believe money trouble may not bring harm to relationships so easily, but, money has a way of bringing great joy or terrible pain into every walk of life. 

Financial stability is the overall goal. Avoiding the big ups and downs money can bring will provide a sense of peace. It allows you to focus on your lovers, relationships, and personal goals. Whether you seek many lovers, seek to become a sister wife, would like to find sister wives, are looking to date a couple, or whatever polyamorous lifestyle suits you, it will be difficult if you’re not financially sound. Protecting your solid foundation is equally important regardless of the relationships you find. 

Say you begin to date a potential sister wife. She has wanted to be a sister wife for a long time and has worked hard to ensure she has much to offer her new polygamist family. She knows her new family is likely to desire she focus on building the home and she wants exactly that. It would be unconscionable to simply take her money and absorb it into the family funds with no protections of her contributions. Prior agreements to protections can be made in case of an unfortunate separation later down the road. Take the time to work out details with a sympathetic and supportive attorney. Working out the details during the good times is vital to ensuring nobody is unfairly harmed in a separation. 

Outside of traditional polygamy there is a vast world of diversity in polyamorous relationship lifestyles. Many polyamorous people, myself included, choose to maintain private finances. A number of issues can be avoided by keeping money separate in a relationship (of any type). In reality financial situations are as diverse as the many forms of polyamory. A partner may be incapable of working, works only seasonally, needs to stay home for child care. Nesting partners may choose to join finances in order to simplify their home life or purchase property together. A wealthy lover may not want their partners to work at all! Here is another great article on poly finances along with real life stories. Regardless of the situation it is important to protect yourself from possible unfortunate circumstances in the future. The same rule applies. Work out details beyond verbal agreements while life is good. 

On a lighter note. Dating is expensive even for monogamous people. Polyamorous dating can add up much faster! Courting multiple sister wives or keeping up with three different dinner dates a week is expensive. This is where transparency and creativity will benefit your love life. Cheap date ideas are fun because you can build new and original experiences together. It’s also easier to go on cheap group dates everyone will enjoy if you develop a fun plan all together. Dinners at home, hiking trips, afternoons on the beach. They all become more exciting when everyone contributes something more than money. 

Love will always win over money because money truly does not buy happiness. Lack of money makes happiness more difficult but not impossible. With a smart and respectful approach to finances in polyamorous relationships you can ensure your lovers and yourself avoid unnecessary harm. Creativity and planning joined with love and support leads to incredible lasting joy. Whether you want to be a sister wife, want multiple lovers, or seek a polyamorous home life, money will be an important factor to consider. A little personal planning now will have you prepared for an exciting love life ahead of you.

Published By: Christopher Alesich

Matchmakers, Inc - Sisterwives.com

Polyamorous people enjoy a variety of possibilities for incredible home lives. Every individual involved in a poly relationship can carve out their own place within the relationship according to their needs. This leads to families looking very different from nuclear families often expected by society. There will be struggles finding exactly the right fit for everyone but with some give and take you can paint your perfect family. Love, trust, respect, and understanding are key.

Some poly families are very traditional in their own way. Women that seek becoming a sister wife often expect a strong male influence at the core of a polygamist family. Polygamist home life typically involves women working in family support roles. Women interested in being a sister wife usually prefer and enjoy this lifestyle and a good man can lead an amazing traditional polygamist family. Finding polygamy dating can be difficult but there are resources out there. Sister Wives is one excellent option. 

Many poly families are less interested in traditional family and gender roles and are more focused on equality. A man with two bisexual women can feel complete comfort with the idea they are also sexually involved. Being honest about your desires and open about your family’s desires is vital to maintaining a happy home. The same goes for a family involving two or more bisexual men. If everyone is enjoying, loving, and supporting each other your home life can be simply incredible. Take it from this kid raised by very open poly parents. “I Grew Up in a Polyamorous Household.”

The financial aspect of a poly household is another huge potential bonus. Three or more adults all chipping in on a house opens up access to many more options along with more hands keeping the place in order. The more the truly merrier! If two couples date each other they may live separately or even share two or more homes with the other couple. Taking advantage of the numbers in your poly family can pay off handsomely. 

On the other hand there are people that prefer a more solitary life. Finding a poly family or multiple lovers that are also more solitary can work great for the fulfillment of love and alone time. A poly family with a partner that prefers living alone can provide just the right amount of love and family time without overwhelming anyone. Multiple partners that live alone but are seeking love and a familial group of lovers should have no trouble not spending so much time together. 

Trouble arises when individuals attempt to force themselves into situations they’re not really cut out for. A sister wife will not do well dating a polyamorous loner. It’s easy to experience new relationship energy that pushes you into making poor choices. Remember to always step back and investigate your true desires before getting yourself or others hurt. Respect the wishes of everyone you date and be clear about yours. Seldom do we get everything we want but you can come close. Not every relationship has to last forever. It’s important to enjoy dating and be open for any fitting opportunity.

Published By: Christopher Alesich

Matchmakers, Inc - Sisterwives.com

Hello Everyone!!!

As most of you are all aware of by now, TLC will be airing Seeking Sister Wife and Sister Wives the TV Show Jan 20th 2019 and this normally brings a lot of new signups on Sister Wives Dating.

If you are seeking a Sister Wife or Family, now is the time, however we would like to share some Friendly Poly Dating Advice with you all.

With all this publicity around Polygamy can also come some trouble... Cough Cough - Catfish and Time Wasters.

The Biggest issue we see this time of year are Catfish - Bored people watching TV, sitting at home in love with the idea of polygamy or poly but too chicken shit to act on it, and too narcissistic to care about hurting a real persons feelings. This Goes deep and is very hard to prevent, but we have a few Tips for you all.

Tips to Stop a catfish before you get a bo bo:

#1 Video Chat ASAP - If you cannot get the person you are pursuing to video chat with you within a day or two, NEXT...

#2 Social Media, if you cannot find the person you are pursuing on FB or other social media, He/She is probably Fake, Don’t waste your Time.

#3 Weird phone habits, Example - in the middle of a conversation - Click or I’ll call you right back, CLICK. Hell to the Naw Naw - NEXT. (Note: I would probably let it fly 1 time Max)

#4 Red Flags - Use common sense, red flags exist for a reason, DO Not Ignore them.

#5 Long Drawn out times to meet in person. As Match Makers we can honestly say that if a potential match is not willing to meet in person after 2 weeks to a month, you will most likely never meet in person and your entire relationship may not be real - Phone Based. If you click with a potential match on the phone, then talk for a week and try to meet face to face ASAP.

#6 never send money to anyone for anything ever. If you reimburse the potential match in person for travel expenses, that is OK.

#7 if you need any advice or research to be done on your behalf, please feel free to contact us. It's Free!

These are just a few important tips, we could not possibly put everything in one small article.

Please remember to practice common sense, always be honest and never be afraid to be yourself and ask questions.

Good Luck!!!

Published By: Christopher Alesich

Matchmakers, Inc - Sisterwives.com

FINDING POLY LIFE AND POLY LOVE

The prospect of finding multiple romantic partners for a long term relationship can seem daunting. Knowing some people will shudder at the thought of polygamy and/or polyamory creates a natural sense of reluctance to always be as open and honest about your lifestyle as you need to be. In time you will build confidence. Looking for a sister wife or to get involved in a relationship with multiple partners won’t feel so odd to mention. People reacting negatively to your desires will eventually have little effect on you aside from a brief sigh. Until you’ve reached that level of confidence having a few safe places to be yourself and find friends and dates will be a life saver. Active participation in the polyamorous or polygamy community will also help build confidence in the community overall. 

Polyamorous Meetups  are an excellent option. Groups already exist or you can create a Meetup that is more in tune with your preferences. Read Meetups descriptions carefully as there are groups with very specific standards and desires. Polygamy specifically is not a term accepted by some polyamorous people. If you are seeking a sister wife you will not find her at a swingers event (most likely). If you’re seeking a second husband you will not find him at a polygamy event so easily as a polygyny gathering. Brush up on your terminology and know exactly what you want to find. This helps ensure you find the correct Meetup or help create one with clear details of the desired crowd for the event. 

Polyamory Events are popping up all over the world and their sheer size makes them an excellent option to find your soulmates in an offline environment. The prospect of finding people from your area to build a local poly community or set up smaller local activities is another bonus to major events. Being broad and less specific due to the large number of people involved allows you to explore different facets of the polyamory world and to share your world with others. You may realize there are possibilities you hadn’t considered before. Your ideas might spark an unknown passion in someone else. Keeping an open mind and sharing the joy of polyamory only leads to better outcomes for everyone involved.  

Online poly communities and dating sites remain the most accessible resource for poly dating. It’s easier to avoid meeting the wrong groups or people as well. If you are a polygamist and want a very traditional sister wife to join your family you can be very specific about that and find women looking for a polygamist family to join. If you are a polyamorous single person or family looking for dates or more lovers you can find them with relative ease this way. Being specific and targeting your audience is far easier online than most real life circumstances. The added benefit of building and maintaining an online community is having a supportive place to turn for continued friendships, fun, and advice. 

Watch out for fake accounts and scammers, as with any online dating, and use dating sites that are committed to your privacy and protection like Sister Wives. With only a little effort you can be chatting with possible soul mates and building new friendships in no time. Be honest, active, and straightforward and your ideal poly matches will find you.

Published By: Christopher Alesich

Matchmakers, Inc - Sisterwives.com

So the decision has been made and becoming a sister wife is the way you’ve decided you’ll find love and fulfillment. It is a whole new world to you and a completely different way of dating. It can seem too difficult at times and giving up will be on your mind occasionally. Getting over the hurdles you’ll face is not impossible and dealing with a society that frowns upon your desires is nothing new. Hang in there and consider a few of these realities to be prepared. 

First off, if you are living the way that makes you truly happy and are harming nobody, including yourself, you have to develop a thick skin against the judgments of the world around you. All of the ‘poison’ people try to give you stems from their own shortcomings and desperate lack of joy. You are the happy one and can only hope you’ll affect toxic people in a positive way. It is not your responsibility to explain yourself or to appease them. Let it go and stay focused on your joy. 

Don’t be fooled into thinking dating will be easier in the polyamorous or polygamous world. There are many differing ideas about what a polygamous relationship means and finding sister wives that share your ideals can be tricky. It’s important to be completely straightforward and honest when seeking a poly relationship. 

Some polygamist families are very traditional with one male leading his sister wives as the head of the family. Sexual contact will be only with the husband, or the male head of the family, and there will be no group sexual activity. Women in a very traditional polygamy situation can expect to fulfill traditional ‘wife duties’ with the purpose of raising children and supporting your husband and family. A strong religious affiliation is often involved as well. The traditional polygamist family is also one of the most heavily scrutinized and often results in the need to move into communities that share your values. 

Polyamorous relationships have become more popular recently and while you can be a sister wife and have one male in the relationship it no longer means the family must follow traditional or religious marriage ideals. Modern poly families can involve lesbian, straight, or bisexual females. The guy could be gay, straight, or bisexual as well but the focus here is on becoming a sister wife. The modern take on polygamy is wide open for interpretation by individual families and requires everyone involved to be well in touch with their sexuality and relationship goals. 

Once you’ve done some soul searching to figure out what you’re looking for you’ll be ready to put yourself out there and connect with the right people. You’ll face the same struggles as traditional dating and the prospect of losing more than one lover in a breakup means heartache along the way can be worse until you find ‘the ones’. A new sister wife entering an existing relationship can be very difficult so you’ve got to be mentally prepared for the struggle. Starting a new plural relationship is also not easy. Being confident and honest is vital to success on your journey. Meeting a family seeking a sister wife with completely different views on sex and lifestyle will be a waste of time and energy for everyone involved. Be clear up front with your expectations. 

A supportive community is helpful to ensure you’re meeting the right people and are able to discuss your experiences and expectations freely. There are online communities for poly or polygamy dating and discussion. Take advantage of them. Becoming a sister wife should be an empowering experience and sharing the experience with new sister wives is a beautiful thing. Don’t be afraid to speak candidly and bring up difficult topics. The more you expose your true self the more likely you are to find the right matches. Love yourself first and your possibilities are endless.

Published By: Christopher Alesich

Matchmakers, Inc - Sisterwives.com

Published By: Christopher Alesich

Matchmakers, Inc - Sisterwives.com