You should start watching the signs so you don't get played or just plain disappointed.
* Messaged you out of nowhere but never looked at your profile
* Has just created the ad today but has several new "friends" all within just a few minutes
* Profile details don't remotely match photo. My favorite was the pale blond blue eyed native American from Nigeria
-feel free to add other obvious signs
Stop being suckered.
If you stop being an easy mark to these leeches then maybe it will cease to be such a target. At very minimum, you will not feel like a prize dumba** for getting played.
i'm not breaking any new ground when saying that this has been a very hard year. i won't even get into politics, i promise :). it's been hard because it's been isolating, and things like depression can take over. i was active here in the spring, when at least as we emerged from the hard times of April, i felt some sense of hope, but then we had waves of challenges here in FL and other southern states, and it honestly made me withdraw.
that was a hard thing to do, and not the right thing either. i could protect myself, but in doing so, i harmed myself by not allowing the exploration of the loving relationship with a Man and my sisters that i so deeply crave, and need, and that God has told me is the way to live. it was humbling to admit that alone i do not have the strength, but in partnership with a Man and my sisters, i can find strength.
And so, here i am again! i remain all the things i've come to know myself to be: smart and caring, humble and submissive, a believer in God and His way, and ready to be in service to my Husband.
As for the practical side of things, I'm refering to basic pros and cons of this type of family. The biggest appeal to me is the idea of 'more'. More members of your tribe. More real coonections. More skills and ideas in your household. More people to back you up and for you to back up. More family members to share the challenges/burdons of child-rearing, home-ownership, and general living. Now, the 'more' I speak of sounds self-serving, but it's a means to an end. It allows you to have more time to devote to your loved ones, raise you children into better people, enjoy life, and help your family, friends, neighbors, and even strangers to enjoy their lives more too. With mre people, each of you requires less time to devote to the ratrace of life, and therefore, more time to devote to yourself and each other.
In a world filled with societies that are seeming more and more predatory, there is strength in numbers, in unity.
i'm going to try to share a little about me on this blog, so you all can gain a better understanding of who i am, my past, and why it's lead me to be the person i am now and my desire to be a sister wife.
I'll try to write a little each day in an ongoing way, but let me start by saying a grew up in a very liberal and highly educated household. I love my parents deeply. They raised me in the things they believed, which were things like compassion for those less fortunate, empathy, and honesty. They are feminists and also more left-learning, but they never demanded I be so as well. They encouraged me to keep core values of love and faith, but to allow them to manifest however my beliefs evolved.
As it became clear to me, as i tried hard to fit in as a hair-under-the-armpits feminist that it just wasn't for me, they supported my decisions to become more involved in the christian church, to seek strong men who set the tone for me and our relationship, to be more conservative in my politics, and eventually to find my journey here, where i hope to find a loving Husband and His alpha wives where i can serve in a beta role. While they are proud of my career and support me, i don't think this is where they anticipated their daughter ending up. But they love and support what i choose to be. And what i choose to be is a subservient and devoted wife to a King who can ensure my role is cherished but also i doing things in my proper place, at the feet of the Man i'm devoted to.
If you are out there, and you just might happen to read this, and are truly serious and committed to living plural marriage, we would love to get to know you! All we want to do is find that special person for us, just like everyone else on this site. We are real, we are 100% all in! Talk with us, give us a chance, I can promise you that we will give that to you as well. We really, honest-to-goodness want to live plural marriage. All I'm asking for is to be given a chance.
Steve