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Dear Friends, To begin with, I am not judging those who are strictly or primarily interested in finding a sexual partner. That is your business and I think everyone understands that. Moreover, people have a lot of different types of lifestyles and beliefs and it is agreed that it is best to recognize that everyone should have the right to live as they wish.
What I am going to discuss today is the
question: when is the right time to talk about sex? The answer to that
is often times not so simple. Being as I am not into swinging I am going
to examine this question from the standpoint of someone who is really
looking for a permanent life partner.
To begin with, when I look over a profile one
of the things that puts me off is displaying sexual pictures. No matter
what the woman is really like, I tend to make assumption if I see too
much of body right off the bat. I like a woman's form as much as anyone
else, but if a woman reveals herself right away to me (an everyone else)
that sends the message that she is advertising her body for a romp in
the hay and not a really, lasting relationship (so to speak). Being as
fidelity is of paramount importance to me and my family, I ask myself,
"could I ever trust such a woman to be faithful?
Furthermore, if the first thing out of my mouth
(or in text) is a "come-on: full of sexual innuendo, am I worth a real
relationship with the person I'm talking to? Again, I think not.
In my opinion (which I realize is just that), I
don't think that women who are really wanting a good man, wants him to
zero in on her body or sexual acts right away. I suppose, if both
parties are just interested in hooking up, that would be a different
matter, but for those who are honestly looking for someone to add to
they hearts and home, that is not what we're looking.
Moreover, when people come at women, who are
seriously looking to join a family, with sex talk, that may tend to sour
them on the whole concept. Perhaps it even ends up driving them away
from this site and from the notion of poly altogether.
For me, personally, I will not talk about sex
with a woman until there is a relationship that warrants such a
conversation. The woman I want would not lead with sexuality either.
While we are both adults and intimacy is at the heart of any vibrant
relationship, getting to know her character and spirit, is the place to
start for me. Practically any woman can be very sexy if she is really
in love with the man she's with, so it is not necessary to advertise
that initially because it is a given.
Some women have learned that being sexy or,
appearing to be sexy, gets them a lot of attention. Furthermore, the
promise of sex with men can lead them to advantages in all sorts of
ways. However, given the choice between getting what they want through
advertising their bodies and having those things given to them freely by
a man who truly loves them as a person, I think many might prefer a
real relationship.
Also, and I think this is a valid point, just
wanting to use a woman (or a man) only for your pleasure degrades them as a
human being.
In conclusion, I think "sex talk" might be
better reserved for the time when their is a love relationship that is
appropriate for that kind of intimacy. Getting to know a woman or a man
well before sex is perhaps the safest way to know what you are getting
yourself in to.
Lastly, if hooking up is really all you want to do, are their not other places better suited for find such a situation? Why hide what you really want behind the facade of finding a sister wife if all you want is a sexual partner with little or no commitment?
Finally, everyone can do and be what they
want. I just know for myself, I want a woman good character, a sweet
heart, and a loyal disposition. If I can find that, everything else
will follow.
Big hugs and lots of love,
Nice to meet everyone,
I have looked at this site for a while and it is nicely done. Until now, I haven't felt to join. However, over the last couple of months I've felt that I should take a serious look. I feel like there is someone we ares supposed to meet here. So, we took the plunge!
What is most important in our lives is being Spirit led. That is we want to hear what God speaks to us personally, and do His will when he wants to do it. I mention this because it is an organizing principle of our entire family.
We have a lot of experience with this type of life choice and know pretty much what works and doesn't work for us. I believe that you first get to know a person, then meet them (fairly soon), and only after both people feel it is right, explore whether or not it is a good match.
Additionally, we call ourselves Divine Mates and not polygamists. We feel that marriage, as is commonly practiced, is not really what God intends. Therefore, to us anyway, polygamy is just a bigger, badder for of marriage. Therefore, what is most important in our estimation is a spiritual connection authored by God where everyone feels drawn together by His Spirit.
Other than our life style, we are very ordinary and middle class American family. We believe that people who are meant to be with us are a blessing and we will be a blessing to them. To us, love only multiplies, it does not divide.
I don't know if you can contact us or if we must contact you first. We plan to say hi to few people that seem like they have something in common with us. let's see where it goes from there.
Big hugs and lots of love,
Michael and family
There are actually so many challenges when you consider being in a polygamous relationship, that it would be great to just get a break every once in a while. For example, one of the most unpleasant situations that you could deal with when meeting people any other way rather than online would be being rejected when you tell them that you are looking for Sister Wives or that you are interested in having more than one loving partner. Rejection is the worst and can do a number on your self-esteem.
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The individuals that do not have the same expectations and desires when it comes to their love life are not a good match, especially if they only believe in what is considered to be the norm – that a couple should be a connection between two persons and that is it. Most probably, you telling them that you are already in a relationship and that you want to add someone new in the mix is going to make them judge you and will hear all sorts of remarks. If you have tried this before on regular dating sites, you have probably already dealt with such a situation.
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