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Hello Everyone,

We hope this message finds you well. For those who may be unfamiliar, my partner Robyn and I are the proud owners and operators of Sister Wives, a dedicated platform designed to foster meaningful connections and facilitate successful matchmaking. Over the years, we have witnessed countless couples and groups find their perfect matches through our community, and it brings us immense joy to support individuals seeking a sister wife or expanding their family through our services.

However, like any matchmaking service, we encounter certain challenges along the way. One significant issue that frequently arises is the prevalence of games—both intentional and unintentional—that can complicate the matchmaking process. Today, I’d like to share some of our professional advice to help you navigate these challenges and minimize potential heartache.

Understanding the Landscape of Online Matchmaking

Online matchmaking offers a unique opportunity to connect with individuals you might not encounter in your everyday life. While this broadens the pool of potential matches, it also introduces complexities that require careful navigation. One of the most common obstacles we observe is the tendency for individuals to engage in games—whether through delayed communication, reluctance to move the relationship forward, or other behaviors that can stall the matchmaking process.

Our Commitment to Authentic Connections

At Sister Wives, we are committed to fostering authentic and sincere connections. We believe that transparency and prompt communication are foundational to building lasting relationships. Based on our extensive experience in poly matchmaking, we have developed a set of guidelines to help you identify and avoid common pitfalls that can lead to frustration and heartache.

Professional Advice to Minimize Heartache in Matchmaking

Below are four essential time frames and corresponding actions you should consider to ensure a healthy and progressive relationship development:

1. Prompt Communication: The Importance of Timeliness

Time Frame: Within 1-2 Days

Guideline: If your potential match is unwilling or unable to engage in a phone call within a day or two of initiating contact, it may be time to reassess the viability of the connection. Prompt communication is a strong indicator of genuine interest and commitment. If someone consistently delays or avoids phone conversations, it could signal a lack of seriousness or other underlying issues that may hinder the relationship’s progression.

Action: Don’t hesitate to move on if timely communication is not forthcoming. Your time and emotional energy are valuable, and it’s essential to invest them in relationships that show mutual respect and eagerness to connect.

2. Transition to Video Chat: Building Trust and Authenticity

Time Frame: Within 3-7 Days

Guideline: After exchanging messages for a few days, transitioning to a video chat is crucial. Video communication adds a layer of authenticity and helps in assessing compatibility beyond textual interactions. If your match hesitates or refuses to engage in a video call within a week, it might be a red flag. This reluctance could indicate potential catfishing or manipulative behavior, where the individual may not be who they claim to be.

Action: Prioritize moving to video chats to ensure that you are interacting with a genuine person. If resistance persists, it is advisable to discontinue the interaction to protect yourself from possible deception.

3. Meeting in Person: The Cornerstone of a Genuine Relationship

Time Frame: Within 1 Month

Guideline: The ultimate goal of any matchmaking process is to establish a meaningful, real-world relationship. If, after a month of communicating, your potential match is not willing to arrange an in-person meeting, it’s a clear indication that the relationship is stagnating. Virtual relationships, while convenient, lack the depth and connection that face-to-face interactions provide. Without taking the next step to meet in person, the relationship cannot fully develop or thrive.

Action: Encourage a meeting within the established time frame. If your match is hesitant or continuously postpones, it’s best to consider moving forward without them. Embracing the next step in courting and dating is essential for building a solid foundation.

4. Commitment to Proximity: Planning for the Future

Time Frame: Within 2-6 Months

Guideline: For relationships that progress beyond the initial stages, it is important to discuss and plan for future proximity. If, within six months, your partner is not willing to consider moving closer to you or making concrete plans for your future together, it may indicate a lack of long-term commitment. Successful relationships, especially in the context of polyamory and polygamous arrangements, require clear intentions and mutual effort to maintain closeness and unity.

Action: Evaluate the long-term potential of the relationship. If your partner is not ready to plan for a shared future, it might be time to reassess the relationship’s viability. Ensuring that both parties are aligned in their goals and willingness to make necessary adjustments is crucial for sustaining a healthy and fulfilling partnership.

Drawing from Personal Experience

These guidelines are not just theoretical; they are grounded in my personal experiences and the numerous relationships I have witnessed through Sister Wives. Managing a polyamorous matchmaking service has provided me with invaluable insights into human behavior and relationship dynamics. I understand firsthand the emotional investments involved and the importance of clear, honest communication in preventing unnecessary heartache.

Moving Forward with Confidence

Embarking on a matchmaking journey can be both exciting and daunting. By adhering to these professional guidelines, you can navigate the complexities of online matchmaking with greater confidence and clarity. Remember, your time and emotions are precious—invest them wisely in relationships that show genuine potential and mutual respect.

Final Thoughts

At Sister Wives, our mission is to support and guide you in finding meaningful connections that enrich your life. We are committed to continually improving our services and providing valuable resources to help you succeed in your matchmaking endeavors. Should you have any questions or need further assistance, please do not hesitate to reach out to us.

Best of luck to you all in your search for love and companionship.

Warm regards,

Christopher Alesich

CEO/President

Matchmakers Inc

Sister Wives