Whom Decides love? from robyn's blog

A lingering question why can we not live in a polygamous relationship? Believing in the true meaning of love, who has the right to decide whom or how many people that is and what it looks like. There are all types of relationships in the world, monogamous, open relationships, homosexual relationships, transgendered, Gay, bisexual, straight, Etc. So why as a consenting adult is this allowed and accepted and not Polygamy?

I am free to choose whom to love and marry, Regardless of if it offends anyone because it is not the norm. If you remember correctly people in the LGBT culture back into the 80’s since that is as far back as I can remember, were not out in the open. Homosexual people were looked at as wrong, bad, weird and all other sorts of things.

Being in a LGBT relationship is finally accepted into our society, but not without a huge struggle to get there. Surely, there are still struggles with values that families hold at times, the judgement of others that do not agree with their lifestyle and many many other things. Nevertheless, they are free, free to be out in the open, free to love whom they choose, free to not hide and free to live their lives and there is nothing wrong with that.

So why is being in a polygamous relationship against everyone? Being Poly is not anything different than above, yet polygamists hide, shelter themselves, their children for fear of prosecution, Losing their children, careers, homes, friends, family. Why because others see it is wrong, disgusting, cheating, against the grain of what our society deems “normal”. Being in a committed relationship with one or multiple people is not wrong in any way if everyone is on the same page.

If everyone in the specific relationship, agrees and is ok with bringing in another partner weather male or female what is wrong with that? When a person is in a sound mind, not under the influence of a substance, and clear in the decision chosen he/she should be free to make that choice. Whos right is it to tell you that you cannot have that. Why is it up to the “system” to say no it is against the law, and you can be prosecuted, why when you are a legal abiding citizen this is the risk because of who you love?

The term Polygamy in itself is not all a bed of roses; there are a few things in my opinion that are a problem. The compounds/sects with multiple FLDS members, who follow some of the “profits” that are marrying off young minor children. The abuse that takes place in those situations is not ok, that is not Polygamy it is abuse and extremely wrong on every level.
Polygamy is a choice or a calling for many and as an individual you need to make that choice for yourself by being of legal age to do so, Polygamy should never be forced on anyone due to religion or beliefs. This should be on the individual making that sound choice.

Any polygamist family who has multiple partners and children because let us be honest many families in this world have quite a number of children, which is great if you can afford them. Applying for Governmental assistance as a poly family is not something that should be taking place.
As a family, decisions such as these need to be discussed as a group before having multiple children; if you cannot afford 10-20 children, you should not be having them. Adding children should be discussion in which every adult member is comfortable. These are two of the biggest issues I feel need to be addressed in polygamy.

However, many blessings come along with living in a plural marriage/commitment, multiple people for household duties, Lots of laughs, Commitment, Child rearing, and additional income for necessities. Being in a plural relationship can be a very magical thing. On the other side, if something devastating happened in the family and there was a death, there would be more than one parent that truly cares and loves each other to raise the children as a team. Having a best girlfriend an additional spouse that you are able to share your, thoughts, feelings, family, children and spouse with does work for many families.

When will it be that Polygamy is accepted as a personal choice? What is it that needs to take place, rallies, protests, and appeals to senators? Remember what the LGBT had to go through, maybe in the coming days, months, and years polygamy will be viewed as a choice, a free choice. As law abiding, tax paying, working citizen’s polygamists deserve the right to be happy, fulfilled, out of hiding, and free to make this choice. If you are looking for a Family or a female to join your family, or are just starting out visit sisterwives.com there are many wonderful people there. Sisterwives.com is a great place for community support, knowledge, a great platform for friendship and your potential forever family.