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Hello Everyone,

We hope this message finds you well. For those who may be unfamiliar, my partner Robyn and I are the proud owners and operators of Sister Wives, a dedicated platform designed to foster meaningful connections and facilitate successful matchmaking. Over the years, we have witnessed countless couples and groups find their perfect matches through our community, and it brings us immense joy to support individuals seeking a sister wife or expanding their family through our services.

However, like any matchmaking service, we encounter certain challenges along the way. One significant issue that frequently arises is the prevalence of games—both intentional and unintentional—that can complicate the matchmaking process. Today, I’d like to share some of our professional advice to help you navigate these challenges and minimize potential heartache.

Understanding the Landscape of Online Matchmaking

Online matchmaking offers a unique opportunity to connect with individuals you might not encounter in your everyday life. While this broadens the pool of potential matches, it also introduces complexities that require careful navigation. One of the most common obstacles we observe is the tendency for individuals to engage in games—whether through delayed communication, reluctance to move the relationship forward, or other behaviors that can stall the matchmaking process.

Our Commitment to Authentic Connections

At Sister Wives, we are committed to fostering authentic and sincere connections. We believe that transparency and prompt communication are foundational to building lasting relationships. Based on our extensive experience in poly matchmaking, we have developed a set of guidelines to help you identify and avoid common pitfalls that can lead to frustration and heartache.

Professional Advice to Minimize Heartache in Matchmaking

Below are four essential time frames and corresponding actions you should consider to ensure a healthy and progressive relationship development:

1. Prompt Communication: The Importance of Timeliness

Time Frame: Within 1-2 Days

Guideline: If your potential match is unwilling or unable to engage in a phone call within a day or two of initiating contact, it may be time to reassess the viability of the connection. Prompt communication is a strong indicator of genuine interest and commitment. If someone consistently delays or avoids phone conversations, it could signal a lack of seriousness or other underlying issues that may hinder the relationship’s progression.

Action: Don’t hesitate to move on if timely communication is not forthcoming. Your time and emotional energy are valuable, and it’s essential to invest them in relationships that show mutual respect and eagerness to connect.

2. Transition to Video Chat: Building Trust and Authenticity

Time Frame: Within 3-7 Days

Guideline: After exchanging messages for a few days, transitioning to a video chat is crucial. Video communication adds a layer of authenticity and helps in assessing compatibility beyond textual interactions. If your match hesitates or refuses to engage in a video call within a week, it might be a red flag. This reluctance could indicate potential catfishing or manipulative behavior, where the individual may not be who they claim to be.

Action: Prioritize moving to video chats to ensure that you are interacting with a genuine person. If resistance persists, it is advisable to discontinue the interaction to protect yourself from possible deception.

3. Meeting in Person: The Cornerstone of a Genuine Relationship

Time Frame: Within 1 Month

Guideline: The ultimate goal of any matchmaking process is to establish a meaningful, real-world relationship. If, after a month of communicating, your potential match is not willing to arrange an in-person meeting, it’s a clear indication that the relationship is stagnating. Virtual relationships, while convenient, lack the depth and connection that face-to-face interactions provide. Without taking the next step to meet in person, the relationship cannot fully develop or thrive.

Action: Encourage a meeting within the established time frame. If your match is hesitant or continuously postpones, it’s best to consider moving forward without them. Embracing the next step in courting and dating is essential for building a solid foundation.

4. Commitment to Proximity: Planning for the Future

Time Frame: Within 2-6 Months

Guideline: For relationships that progress beyond the initial stages, it is important to discuss and plan for future proximity. If, within six months, your partner is not willing to consider moving closer to you or making concrete plans for your future together, it may indicate a lack of long-term commitment. Successful relationships, especially in the context of polyamory and polygamous arrangements, require clear intentions and mutual effort to maintain closeness and unity.

Action: Evaluate the long-term potential of the relationship. If your partner is not ready to plan for a shared future, it might be time to reassess the relationship’s viability. Ensuring that both parties are aligned in their goals and willingness to make necessary adjustments is crucial for sustaining a healthy and fulfilling partnership.

Drawing from Personal Experience

These guidelines are not just theoretical; they are grounded in my personal experiences and the numerous relationships I have witnessed through Sister Wives. Managing a polyamorous matchmaking service has provided me with invaluable insights into human behavior and relationship dynamics. I understand firsthand the emotional investments involved and the importance of clear, honest communication in preventing unnecessary heartache.

Moving Forward with Confidence

Embarking on a matchmaking journey can be both exciting and daunting. By adhering to these professional guidelines, you can navigate the complexities of online matchmaking with greater confidence and clarity. Remember, your time and emotions are precious—invest them wisely in relationships that show genuine potential and mutual respect.

Final Thoughts

At Sister Wives, our mission is to support and guide you in finding meaningful connections that enrich your life. We are committed to continually improving our services and providing valuable resources to help you succeed in your matchmaking endeavors. Should you have any questions or need further assistance, please do not hesitate to reach out to us.

Best of luck to you all in your search for love and companionship.

Warm regards,

Christopher Alesich

CEO/President

Matchmakers Inc

Sister Wives

If you are out there, and you just might happen to read this, and are truly serious and committed to living plural marriage, we would love to get to know you! All we want to do is find that special person for us, just like everyone else on this site. We are real, we are 100% all in! Talk with us, give us a chance, I can promise you that we will give that to you as well. We really, honest-to-goodness want to live plural marriage. All I'm asking for is to be given a chance. 

Steve

When a couple or a single man/lady takes the journey of Polygamy sometimes if not almost every time it takes a while. Sometimes this can be as short as a few weeks or as long as a few years. As a couple looking think about the time when you were single and found your mate, It may have been difficult to meet that special person your with because of “matching Preference” think about all the others that you dated in the past that were not the right match. As a single looking think about the same and your own desires as to what you seek. When you enter into the Poly world, you need to match with your sister wife and husband. As a couple you have your spouse and now a new member to worry about, her likes, dislikes, hobbies, food preference, habits etc. Depending on your family, you may want to move fast or slow, but the balance falls between where you all feel comfortable. Wanting a Poly family and rushing to quickly could result in a disaster if not everyone involved is on the same page.

A few tips to help you move forward on Sisterwives.com Make sure your profile is filled out correctly, and fully, add photos and maybe some fun ones.  Be active, Log in often to check your messages and respond, if you are not interested in a family or a single that is messaging you should be honest and let them know so either party can move on. Be honest in what you are looking for this can be added in your profile. Sisterwives.com has added new features including chat and video chat that makes it easier than having to use outside video programs.

Most of all have fun with your search, stay positive and keep moving forward in the end you will match with the prefect person for your family. Having a Sister wife or a family is important, and creating the environment that you see in polygamy is important.

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A lingering question why can we not live in a polygamous relationship? Believing in the true meaning of love, who has the right to decide whom or how many people that is and what it looks like. There are all types of relationships in the world, monogamous, open relationships, homosexual relationships, transgendered, Gay, bisexual, straight, Etc. So why as a consenting adult is this allowed and accepted and not Polygamy?

I am free to choose whom to love and marry, Regardless of if it offends anyone because it is not the norm. If you remember correctly people in the LGBT culture back into the 80’s since that is as far back as I can remember, were not out in the open. Homosexual people were looked at as wrong, bad, weird and all other sorts of things.

Being in a LGBT relationship is finally accepted into our society, but not without a huge struggle to get there. Surely, there are still struggles with values that families hold at times, the judgement of others that do not agree with their lifestyle and many many other things. Nevertheless, they are free, free to be out in the open, free to love whom they choose, free to not hide and free to live their lives and there is nothing wrong with that.

So why is being in a polygamous relationship against everyone? Being Poly is not anything different than above, yet polygamists hide, shelter themselves, their children for fear of prosecution, Losing their children, careers, homes, friends, family. Why because others see it is wrong, disgusting, cheating, against the grain of what our society deems “normal”. Being in a committed relationship with one or multiple people is not wrong in any way if everyone is on the same page.

If everyone in the specific relationship, agrees and is ok with bringing in another partner weather male or female what is wrong with that? When a person is in a sound mind, not under the influence of a substance, and clear in the decision chosen he/she should be free to make that choice. Whos right is it to tell you that you cannot have that. Why is it up to the “system” to say no it is against the law, and you can be prosecuted, why when you are a legal abiding citizen this is the risk because of who you love?

The term Polygamy in itself is not all a bed of roses; there are a few things in my opinion that are a problem. The compounds/sects with multiple FLDS members, who follow some of the “profits” that are marrying off young minor children. The abuse that takes place in those situations is not ok, that is not Polygamy it is abuse and extremely wrong on every level.
Polygamy is a choice or a calling for many and as an individual you need to make that choice for yourself by being of legal age to do so, Polygamy should never be forced on anyone due to religion or beliefs. This should be on the individual making that sound choice.

Any polygamist family who has multiple partners and children because let us be honest many families in this world have quite a number of children, which is great if you can afford them. Applying for Governmental assistance as a poly family is not something that should be taking place.
As a family, decisions such as these need to be discussed as a group before having multiple children; if you cannot afford 10-20 children, you should not be having them. Adding children should be discussion in which every adult member is comfortable. These are two of the biggest issues I feel need to be addressed in polygamy.

However, many blessings come along with living in a plural marriage/commitment, multiple people for household duties, Lots of laughs, Commitment, Child rearing, and additional income for necessities. Being in a plural relationship can be a very magical thing. On the other side, if something devastating happened in the family and there was a death, there would be more than one parent that truly cares and loves each other to raise the children as a team. Having a best girlfriend an additional spouse that you are able to share your, thoughts, feelings, family, children and spouse with does work for many families.

When will it be that Polygamy is accepted as a personal choice? What is it that needs to take place, rallies, protests, and appeals to senators? Remember what the LGBT had to go through, maybe in the coming days, months, and years polygamy will be viewed as a choice, a free choice. As law abiding, tax paying, working citizen’s polygamists deserve the right to be happy, fulfilled, out of hiding, and free to make this choice. If you are looking for a Family or a female to join your family, or are just starting out visit sisterwives.com there are many wonderful people there. Sisterwives.com is a great place for community support, knowledge, a great platform for friendship and your potential forever family.

What are you considering?! Is it true that you are insane?!?

Alright, simply joking. As insane as this truly sounds to the world, or to anyone that is first dealing with this question, those of us who have been through the move and lived to tell have taken in a couple of things, and in all actuality on the off chance that you can ace your weaknesses and venture up to this way of life, you will be luxuriously remunerated. You will be all the more liberated to act naturally and to seek after your interests. You will share the highs and lows of your existence with more individuals that genuinely cherish you and need the best for you and are on your side. Furthermore, you will be free from the annoying trepidation that your better half will abandon you some time or another for another person.

There's a considerable measure to consider, a great deal of issues. Numerous advantages and disadvantages to be weighed. Take as much time as is needed.

On the off chance that you are as of now wedded, and you and your significant other have begun discussing this, DON'T accept that your better half is quite recently searching for more sex, or is exhausted with you, or in any capacity considers less you a man and as a spouse. We can't represent precisely what's experiencing your better half's brain, however consider the accompanying cases:

A lady who has had a child, and that infant is currently two or three years of age, may wind up needing another infant. It doesn't mean she doesn't love her first tyke. She simply needs a greater amount of what she has, and to the degree she is a decent mother and is generally benevolent, she simply needs to dispatch all the more balanced youngsters into the world.

A business person who has enlisted a worker, whose business is as yet developing, may choose to enlist another representative. It doesn't mean there is anything amiss with the execution of the main worker. It just implies that the business is developing and needs more hands to deal with the work process.

An undergrad who has a companion she invests a great deal of energy with may meet another companion—somebody fascinating and invigorating that she needs to become more acquainted with better and thinks might be a decent long haul companion. The 'old companion' could get desirous and possessive and attempt to undermine the new relationship, or she could value the new companion, maybe build up her own relationship, and to the degree them three all appreciated each other's conversation and delighted in doing things together, they'd all be wealthier for it.

Clearly none of these cases hits precisely being a spouse. In any case, each in its own specific manner hits a piece of being a spouse. Regardless of whether it's the arrangement and insurance that a spouse offers a wife and a mother offers a youngster, or the feeling of cooperation and fellowship that describes solid business connections, or the basic fraternity of a decent companion, none of these connections is essentially debilitated by the expansion of more connections. When they're set well, "the more, the merrier".

In the event that you are thinking about turning into a man's second or third spouse, your circumstance is comparable in some ways, and diverse in others. You're measuring whether to surrender trusts and dreams in some relationship that hasn't happened yet; the primary spouse is managing feeling deceived, similar to some person changed the arrangement on her without inquiring. You're feeling sort of exceptional that your man would need to add you to his family; she's fondling somewhat utilized and dismissed that he would need to add you to the family, which is her family, as well, coincidentally. In any case a similar question presents itself: Where does your self-esteem originated from? What makes you like yourself and gives you seek after what's to come?

That is a ton to consider. Gone up against with the likelihood that what God needs for your life is drastically not quite the same as what you have been directed to expect, it's reasonable this would be a troublesome and some of the time enthusiastic process. Be that as it may, don't stop. Try not to surrender. What you're experiencing now will pass. Concentrate on what's valid about the affection for God and the will of God, "and reality might make you free".

"Man, you should be some sort of pimp!"

"I don't know how you do it. I can scarcely take great care of one!"

Those are the two sorts of reactions (other than the clear gaze) that are run of the mill when a man is 'turning out' to somebody about having a plural family. The littler gathering essentially accept that it's about the sex. The bigger gathering comprehends the duty that a Christian man has for the individuals from his family.

For the most part, in their reactions to the subject of polygamy, both men and ladies uncover something of what they consider the way of marriage and its expenses and advantages. Also, the truth of the matter is, you can't appreciate the diversion unless you concede to the tenets, and there's no reason for belligerence the relative benefits of polygamy with somebody that has a totally extraordinary esteem framework and comprehension of what marriage is than you do.

So in case you're engaging this nutty thought, be prompted that you would be advised to have your own particular esteems cleared up. A few people will acknowledge what you're doing on the grounds that they simply couldn't care less in particular, some have an "incline toward toleration" logic, and some will love you enough to at present love you notwithstanding when they think you've truly lost your brain. Yet, then again, some will believe you're odd funkily, some will believe you're irregular scarily, some will believe you're risky, and some will detest you.

All in all, our families and families we know have been tossed out of houses of worship, disregarded in their nearby groups, lost kids in care fights, had first spouses leave after it gets hard, been undermined with criminal arraignment (no feelings yet, express gratitude toward God), had developed youngsters cut us off, and in one case even had a demise risk. Not everyone, not in any case the vast majority, will despise you and attempt to hurt you. Simply enough individuals to keep it truly intriguing.

That is the awful news. The uplifting news is that this will improve you a man, a superior spouse, and a superior father. A superior sibling to other men in the collection of Christ. A more mindful adherent of the lessons of Jesus and a superior audience to the still, little voice of the Holy Spirit. In the event that you need this way of life to work—implanted in 21st century Western culture, with its open antagonistic vibe to and mistreatment of conventional parts and connections—you have no other decision.